posted Apr 23, 2009 11:27 AM by Anne Herridge
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We all have times when we struggle with negative feelings and self talk. Some people struggle with feelings of failure, believing they will never be good enough. Others believe they are worthless, unimportant, untrustworthy or unwanted. Some believe they are not good enough for God. Some are full of fear and uncertainty about the future.
The truth is that each one of us is planned, wanted, valued and loved more than we can ever imagine! Not only that, but God has an eternal plan and purpose for us! The following is a set of paraphrased scriptures from the Bible which speak the truth about you!
Please feel free to print them off and insert your own name where there is a blank space. God longs for you to know that this is how he sees you.
I made you ____________, in my own image and likeness, and when I made you I saw that you were so very good (Genesis 1:27, 31)
You, ________________, are my work of art (Ephesians 2:10), and part of my household where you belong. I am at home with you (Ephesians 2:22).
You, ________________, reflect like a mirror the brightness of the Lord, and grow brighter and more beautiful as he enters your life, and you become more like him (2 Corinthians 3:16-18).
I have blessed you _______________, with all the spiritual blessings of heaven in Christ. Long before I laid down Earth's foundations, I had you in mind ____________, and I chose you. You ______________ are the focus of my love. I have chosen you to be made whole and holy through my love. Before you were born I had already decided to adopt you into my family, and I took great pleasure in planning this! (Ephesians 1:3-4)
I have chosen you ___________ to live with me forever (1 Thessalonians 5:10). You are my friend (John 15:15).
I made you _______________, only a little less than the angels, and crowned you with glory and honour. You are important. You are special ______________ (Psalm 8:5).
I created you inside and out _____________. I formed you in your mother's womb. You are fantastic! You are beautifully made by my own hands. I know you inside out. I know every bone in your body. I know every part of you ____________; your dreams, your longings, your hopes and fears. Like an open book I have watched you grow day by day. All the stages of your life are spread out before me. Every day of your life has been known to me and prepared for you from the beginning _____________, even before you had lived a day. (Psalm 139: 13-16)
I am your Shepherd ________________. I will give you everything you need (Psalm 23:1).
I love you with an everlasting love_____________; I have drawn you to myself with loving kindness (Jeremiah 31:3)
Do not be afraid _______________, for I have redeemed you.
I have called you by your name _______________, you are mine.
Should you pass through the waters (when you're in over your head) I'll be with you;
When you're in rough waters, you will not go down;
Should you walk through fire, you will not be burned; and the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the Lord your God,
The Holy One of Israel, your Saviour ________________.
You are so precious in my sight, ________________. You are honoured and I love you (Isaiah 43:1-4).
I have engraved your name on the palms of my hands __________________ (Isaiah 49:16)
You ___________ have been given a brand new life and have everything to live for, including a future in heaven - and the future starts now! I am keeping careful watch over you and the future. The day is coming when you'll have it all - life healed and whole (1 Peter 1:3)
There is hope for your future ____________. I have plans to take care of you, not abandon you. I have plans to give you the future you hope for (Jeremiah 29:11)
I, Christ, loved you ____________, and gave myself for your sake (Galatians 2:10)
My Son died for you ____________ so that we could be reconciled. I welcome you into my Presence and see you as holy, without blame or fault (Colossians 1: 22)
Christ lives in you ___________, and gives you assurance of sharing his glory (Colossians 1:27)
You _______________ are not your own property. You have been bought and paid for with a high price (1 Corinthians 6:20)
I know you fully______________ inside and out, and I love you (1 Corinthians 13:12; Psalm 139)
You_____________, are the temple of the Holy Spirit who lives in you (1 Corinthians 6:19)
You_____________, have been made right with God through Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21)
You_____________, are Christ's representitive (2 Corinthians 5:20)
For you__________, who belong to Christ, are a new person! The old life has gone; a new life has begun! (2 Corinthians 5:17)
You_____________ are the salt of the earth, and the light of the world (Matthew 5:13-14)
You have eternal life____________ (John 3:16). You live in Christ, and he lives in you__________, and you will live forever (John 6:54-58)
Even in this world______________, you have become like me (1 John 4:17)
I set my seal of ownership upon you______________, and gave you the Holy Spirit in your heart as a guarantee of all that I have for you (2 Corinthians 1:20-22)
You will become like me______________, for you will see me as I am (1 John 3:2)
You will see me face to face____________, and my Name will be written on your forehead. You will reign with me forever (Revelation 22:4-5)
I am always with you __________. You belong to me and I hold you by your right hand. I will guide you with my counsel and will take you into glory. I am leading you to a glorious destiny! (Psalm 73:23-24)
No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has imagined what I have prepared for those who love me _________ (1 Corinthians 2:9)
I will raise you up by my power ____________(1 Corinthians 6:14)
I have gone to prepare a place for you, and I shall return to take you with me, so that where I am, you________, may be too (John 14:2-3)
I will show you the path of life____________, the fullness of joy in my presence (Psalm 16:11)
You have a sure hope and the promise of an inheritance that can never be spoilt or fade away, because it is being kept in heaven for you______________ (1 Peter 1:3-4)
I will be your God throughout your lifetime until your hair is white with age. I made you, and I will care for you ___________. I will carry you along, and save you (Isaiah 46:4).
I have cared for you all the way ___________, as you travelled through the wilderness, just as a father cares for his child (Deuteronomy 1:31).
When you were a child_________ I loved you and called you,
I taught you how to walk, leading you by the hand.
You did not realise ___________ that I was the One who cared for you.
I led you with ties of kindness and love.
I lifted the yoke from your neck and bent down to you__________ to feed you.
How can I give you up? How can I let you go? (Hosea 11:1-8)
As the bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so I, your God, rejoice over you ____________ (Isaiah 62:5)
I will betroth you to me forever____________, betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness and you will acknowledge me (Hosea 2:19-20)
Remember___________, I will never leave you or let you down (Hebrews 13:5)
Even now in heaven I am interceding and praying for you______________. You are saved completely (Hebrews 13:5)
I have begun a good work in you_____________, and will carry it on to completion (Philippians 1:6)
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'The Truth About You' was given to me by Hope Christian Counselling, Bath UK, who I believe obtained it from Scope Ministries, USA. I wish to credit both these organizatons. I have since added to it and paraphrased parts of it using The Message Bible. NLT and NIV also used.
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posted Apr 21, 2009 6:22 PM by Anne Herridge
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updated Apr 23, 2009 1:00 PM
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I often talk with clients about the importance of the thoughts and beliefs that we hold about ourselves and the events that happen in our lives. When life gets difficult, or throws unexpected stress our way, we can find ourselves struggling with anxiety, anger or depression, sometimes sinking into an emotional turmoil which can last for days or even months.
We tend to assume that we feel the way we do because of the things that happen to us, or the circumstances surrounding us. Someone criticizes us at work and we feel angry or hurt. We get an unexpected call from the doctor following a routine test and feel sudden anxiety. Our feelings are actually a result of what we are thinking, and the beliefs we hold in our minds, rather than the work incident or the doctor's call. Here is an everyday example. A friend cancelled a lunch date we had arranged in order to meet with another friend from out of town who came by unexpectedly. It was short notice, and I initially felt disappointed. As the day wore on, I began to feel depressed and rather worthless! After a while, I realized that it was not the cancellation itself that was causing these feelings, but rather, what I was choosing to believe. I was telling myself that I am unimportant compared to my friend's other friend, which of course is not true! As soon as I recognised this 'wrong belief' and dismissed it, my feelings began to change and became more positive once again.
This type of thinking is often called 'self talk'. The example I give is very small and somewhat trivial, but our self talk can be very powerful and very destructive! Life is not easy, and we all have to face situations on a daily basis which can threaten to dislodge us if we are not aware of the connection between our thoughts and subsequent feelings. Sometimes when people have a breakdown, it can appear to have been triggered by a seemingly 'trivial' event. More often than not, a counsellor will uncover unchecked negative self talk or destructive beliefs which have built up under the surface for years, sometimes from childhood, all of which have contributed in some way to the eventual breakdown.
The Bible has a lot to say about the way we think. God designed us for significance, and to function with a high degree of self worth. He never intended us to get hurt, to deal with anxiety and loss, or to feel the pain of rejection and worthlessness. Yet temporarily at least, we have to live in a troubled world full of broken people who often hurt us. We also have an enemy who is intent on destroying those who love God and follow his ways. This enemy delights in whispering lies to us, and using circumstances and relationships against us. It's as if we are living in a war zone! Some of the greatest battles we have to face are those which take place in our minds. Like soldiers in enemy territory, we must not only cling to God's truth about who we are , but constantly check our thought patterns and beliefs, and align them with Scripture.
This is one of the reasons why the Bible says "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." (Romans 12:2 NIV). We can only 'renew' our minds when we catch our wrong thinking, and replace it with truth. We need to be transformed not just in the way we live and behave towards others, but in the way we think about ourselves and our circumstances.
The book of Proverbs says that "as a man thinks within himself, so he is.." (Proverbs 23:7 NIV footnote). We can become what we think, and become absorbed by it, if we think it long enough, just as a child will 'become' badly behaved if he is told he is bad too often, and accepts that message as truth. Proverbs also tells us to be careful how we think because "your life is shaped by your thoughts." (Proverbs 4:23 in the Good News Bible). We need to examine our thoughts regularly just as the psalmist, David did, in the Old Testament. He was a man who regularly wrestled with his thoughts, and who cried, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts." (Psalm 139: 23)
God's desire is that we guard our thoughts and align them with his. To do this we must soak our minds in his truth and gain his perspective on our circumstances so that we can face difficulty, trial and rejection with strength, hope and encouragement. The truth is that we are chosen, precious, loved, honoured, accepted people, who were worth so much that a King came and died for us, and called us his sons and daughters. There will be times when we fail, or have to face fearful events, and that is when we have to trust God and his word. He says that we are forgiven and righteous in his sight. He has promised to hold our hand, and even carry us, and give us his peace in every circumstance. Although people may reject us, he has promised never to leave or abandon us. Though the world may not see our worth, he says that we are precious and loved with an everlasting love.
Fix your eyes on him, and believe his evaluation of you. In the words of Philippians 4:8, "Whatever is true...whatever is right...think about such things."
Copyright Anne Herridge 2009
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posted Apr 20, 2009 11:10 AM by Anne Herridge
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My family and I recently went dogsledding for the first time. Whenever I remember the adventure we had that day, I realize that there are several comparisons between a dog sled team, and a God led life!
A dog sled team consists of the lead dog, or dogs, followed by several other pairs of dogs, the cargo or passengers, and the musher (or guide). They all work together with incredible teamwork to pull the sled at great speed across the toughest frozen terrain.
The lead dog is similar to Jesus. All the dogs are harnessed together on the same line beind the lead dog, whom they must follow. The lead dog on our team was experienced and focused, unlike some of those behind who would perhaps have left the trail or become distracted had they not been harnessed to their leader! They had no choice but to follow him, and working together in this way the dogs showed just how strong and powerful they were as they pulled us seemingly effortlessly around Mount Seymour's icy slopes.
Just like a harness, Jesus spoke of our being 'yoked' with him. "Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:29-30). A yoke is a wooden beam which is used between a pair of oxen, similar to a harness, to allow them to pull a load. When Jesus said that his yoke is easy and the burden is light, he meant that if we are symbolically 'yoked' or 'harnessed' to him, our burdens are shared with him, and he will help us to carry them, just like the dogs who share the weight of the sled. It's amazing what we can accomplish, and the strength we can find if we are harnessed to Jesus and following his lead and example in our lives!
For the dogs to succeed, obedience, good listening skills and teamwork are required. The dogs on our team demonstrated that they had been trained well to listen and obey their musher's commands, as well as to work together without fighting or tripping one another up along the way. No dog could pull the sled for long by himself. Each one depended on the others to share the load, just as in the Christian life, we cannot exist without the support and help of others.
The musher is similar to God the Father. He is the one who clearly sees the trail ahead, gives directions and warns of danger. He also adds extra power and guidance to the sled from the rear. We were surprised just how hard our musher had to work, running, pushing and steering the sled. He is the one who has overall responsibility for the smooth running of the vehicle. If he is wise and experienced, as our musher was, the sled runs well. If he makes the wrong decision, the sled can easily tip over and lose its passengers! The dogs listen to the voice of the musher so that they know when to stop or wait, when to turn to the right or the left. The musher speaks in words and ways they understand. Jesus always listened to the Father, never doing anything without first praying and following God's will. "I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does." (John 5;19). God has promised to always give us direction when we ask, but we do have to listen: "Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, 'This is the way;walk in it.' " (Isaiah 30:21). Just as the musher sees the best path ahead for his dogs, and gives direction from the rear, so God sees the best path for our lives.
It was clear that our dogs were excited to be in the race as they sped through the snowy forest and up and down the slopes! It was fun for them! Their enthusiasm was infectious as they ran, tails up and wagging alongside each other! They were not daunted by their task, or weary and worn down. From time to time the musher would stop to give them a break, but they were soon straining at the line again, eager to get going.
The apostle, Paul, in his letter to the Philippians spoke of "forgetting what is behind" and "straining toward what is ahead", pressing on toward the goal or prize that awaited him. (Philippians 3:14). He often compared the Christian life to a race that has to be run with perseverance and determination: "Therefore...let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us." (Hebrews 12:1)
As a Christian, I don't believe that God wants us to dwell on the past which is often painful or full of mistakes. If we have comitted ourselves to him we are forgiven! He has forgiven those times when we failed to listen, fought with others or tripped both ourselves and others up when we became entangled with chains or problems of our own making! He wants us to be excited to be in the race, knowing that he has our best interests at heart, and overall control!
Your race is already marked out for you by the Divine Musher himself. If you are correctly harnessed to Jesus, and listening to the voice of the Father, know that you are safe. You are part of a Divine Team who know what they are doing! Jesus is ahead of you, the Father is behind you. All you need to do is follow and listen, and run your race well with those around you. It doesn't matter how heavy the burden is that you're pulling, because you are not alone. You don't have to lead. You cannot be left behind because you are harnessed to Jesus. You are in the right place. You don't even need to know where the path is leading because the Divine Musher is with you, and sees every part of your trail ahead. Trust him, he knows what he's doing!
Copyright Anne Herridge 2009
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posted Apr 17, 2009 1:54 PM by Anne Herridge
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updated Apr 22, 2009 6:49 AM
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(An interview with Tony Klasson, a home church leader, who since this interview has moved to Kimberley, BC)
I am sitting in a cool, shaded living room on a warm summer evening, in the company of a rugged young man in his thirties. His shaved head accentuates his piercing blue eyes and the large earrings he wears in both ears. His bare feet and torn jeans give him an air of relaxed comfort as he sips water from a tall glass, and settles his feet up onto the coffee table.
Tony Klasson is a carpenter, and looks every bit the part in his worn clothing, with a new, half finished tattoo which he is proud to show off, but he is also the pastor of a small house church in Chilliwack, BC. I am here to find out why this graduate of Canadian Bible College, and former Alliance church youth pastor, chose to leave mainstream ministry and instead open his home to a small group of friends and neighbours to form a very different kind of church.
“I became a youth pastor in 1995, and I had long hair back then,” he remembers with a large smile, “and only one earring, which I had to remove, and to be honest, I felt like a fish out of water from day one. At Bible school, they teach you how to do Bible study, but not how to be a pastor. I call myself the ‘anti-pastor’ because I don’t work the way the mainstream church works.”
A phrase enters my mind as I listen. “A reluctant pastor?” He smiles. “I’m not good at visiting people or praying with them. I’m a reader, and a thinker, and a faith grower. I love working with older kids like 18 to 24 year olds, because I want to help them find a faith of their own. I love to preach, but there weren’t many opportunities when I was a youth pastor. I realized that God has to use me as I am, and that I had to be willing to trust him.”
He describes how the church he served in Fort Saskatchewan, had clear plans and ideas as to how to move forward, but that it wasn’t right for him personally. “It felt as if they wanted a job filled, rather than me and my ideas. I was on a journey of self discovery, and until I realized where I wanted to go and why, I stayed put for four years.”
Hoping to find more ministry opportunities elsewhere, he explains how he and his wife, and their three young children, moved to BC and became involved with another local mainstream church. “We got all involved. I played in the band and my wife led a women’s group there, and on the surface, the church seemed very open to exploring new possibilities. We offered to be part of developing something new. I thought maybe there was an opportunity for planting a new church within the church…to operate independently, but nothing came of it. Again, it seemed like they were more interested in finding bodies to fill roles rather than the condition of people’s hearts.”
He sees church structure as one of the problems in mainstream church, and his tone indicates frustration as he speaks of the hierarchy and rules which he believes hinders the church from functioning as a living body. “I don’t like the rank and file of the church. There’s the senior pastor, and the elders and (in this church) you had to be a member to have any input.” He describes a situation to illustrate his point. “A financial crisis occurred at our former church, and at the AGM we sat down to discuss the problem and attempt to resolve it. It struck me that it wasn’t actually a financial problem, but more a spiritual one.” He continues to explain how he attempted to suggest this and to pass a motion to deal with the issue, only to have his motion struck down by the senior pastor on the basis that he wasn’t considered a member, having not got around to transferring his church membership. “They appeared to have more interest in rules and bureaucracy than resolving problems and allowing the input of the Holy Spirit. Everyone looks up to the senior pastor rather than looking in his own heart and growing from there.”
He tells me about a picture he once saw on the front of Mcleans magazine, which had a deep impact on him. “It was a picture of your typical church, with a conveyor belt of ‘cookie cutter’ Christians coming out one after another, all exactly the same. It’s as if the church produces Christians, rather than Christians flavouring the church. Everyone seems to look the same, but if you think about the idea of giftedness… people’s hobbies and gifts, everyone is different, so any gathering of people should look completely different to any other, because it’s the sum of its parts.”
Clearly, he sees people as individuals, believing the Body of Christ should embrace and develop each individual and diverse part, and he shares more of his desire to see people grow in their own spirituality, speaking with increasing passion. “As a youth pastor I was often asked, “when are you going to develop the spiritual lives of our kids?” But my answer to that is that if you can’t figure it out for yourself, what’s the point of learning someone else’s spirituality?”
From his experience he believes that by default, many people have unintentionally been taught that they can’t worship properly unless they are a skilled musician, that they can’t learn from Scripture unless they have been to Bible college, or that they have to depend on the pastor or leader’s teaching and spirituality to find their own.“I wanted to teach people not to depend on people like me to grow spiritually. The whole idea of being a pastor, or a person who gets paid to help prompt spiritual growth in others seemed like a splinter in my brain. When I’m fostering spiritual growth for a pay cheque, it doesn’t seem right. I used to think that if people pay me to be a pastor, they will expect me to use my time for spiritual things, instead of them doing it themselves, and so I thought if I could get a regular job and be paid for something else, yet still be a pastor using my gifts, then the expectations on me would be different.”
This then is why he left the church to form a house church? “I felt we needed to get unplugged from the big church. We like to start people on their spiritual journey, when they often don’t have a single spiritual building block in their life. We poke them and prod them to see what God wants to grow in them. I realized that Sunday morning when all the Christians are in church, is the only time when our neighbours are home and when we can interact with them. It occurred to me that it’s the dumbest thing in the world to be somewhere other than home on a Sunday morning. If you want to get to know your neighbours and be Jesus in their life, you need to be there.”
He shares how one Sunday morning in December, a few neighbours were putting up their Christmas lights, and he offered to help. One by one other neighbours appeared and soon most of the men who lived in that street were out together helping one another, and getting to know each other while they worked and their kids played. He believes this opened new opportunities for his family to share the gospel message with these non churched folk, who now regularly play street hockey together and have barbeques.
“Instead of being the family who were never involved because we were always away at church, we are right there in the midst of their lives, building relationship and sharing the gospel in practical ways.”
His hanging out with friends and neighbours has certainly had an impact, as he describes the many opportunities he and his wife have had to share their faith as they interact in their neighbours lives, resulting in one woman who had no previous interest in the church, taking the first steps to becoming a Christian, and regularly coming to their home church, which, doesn’t necessarily meet on a Sunday.“We meet any day of the week that suits our schedules,” he says, “ and not always in our own home. We like to give others the opportunity to host. We are very casual. We begin by eating together and we often have communion…not necessarily with bread and wine…once we used coffee and buns because it was all we had. Jesus said to do it whenever you break bread and share together. We believe we can remember him and give thanks for his sacrifice at any time when we come together in his Name. After that we study together, talk, sometimes cry, or laugh, and share insights.”
He describes how in some ways it has been a personal challenge for him as the leader of this group following his traditional training. “Having gone through college and done all this reading, and having been taught to bring the meat of the Word out in the form of a traditional sermon, it’s a challenge to get down to just the real nuts and bolts of living our lives in front of these people and sharing the insights we have learned. There is nothing traditional about the way I lead or ‘preach’ now. It is more sharing insights and discussion. It’s been harder but much more rewarding. I’ve learned how to share what I believe from how I live. In the ‘big building’ church, God is ‘shop talk’. There’s jargon and phrases that only the church understands. It can be hard for people coming in with no Christian background or understanding. Outside the church, if your spiritual life isn’t made real in how you live, it doesn’t make sense. You can go week after week hearing pulpit preaching, but often people don’t find it relevant. I believe my wife and I are both doing more ministry now than ever before, and I hope and pray that we’ve made a more profound difference in our world, than the big building church. If people are going to see Jesus and hear stories of faith, it has to come from our lives and example, and we have to trust that the rest is up to God.”
His voice grows more emphatic as he shares his passion for God, and how he believes true pasturing is living moment by moment in God’s presence and stimulating others to do the same. “Everything I read or learn is an experience of God. I find worshipful moments in the CD’s we play, or in nature…in the mountains…that’s where I find God. To me, prayer without ceasing is being aware of Gods’ voice all the time…being in constant communion with him. I’ve never had Sabbath days like I have since we left the church. I’ve never been more aware of him, and never enjoyed his presence so much. I find God can speak through anything, even non Christian books and movies, and I feel that I have the ability to make connections between the things I experience and what God is wanting to say or teach us.”
Does he read much Christian material then? “I don’t read non fiction or those ‘how to’ informational Christian books. I’m more interested in knowing more about the author…in knowing more about people. I love mountaineering stories, and stories that bring out the best and the worst in people. I like war movies because I am interested in people and how they tick.”
An impression forms in my mind that this man is a pastor in the true sense of the word. Here is someone with a heart for people, whose desire is to see them grow and have the freedom to pursue God freely, independently and creatively as they find him in their everyday life experiences, not just briefly on a Sunday morning in a traditional church. Here is a man who can see that the Spirit of God is free and at work in every part of life, and in each unique individual, longing with him for growth, and for each person to be severed from the dependent state he feels the church is often responsible for imposing upon them as they wrestle with the rules and bureaucracy that so often takes over in the mainstream church.
“I don’t believe anything different theologically” he muses, “ I just wish that the spiritual leaders of our time could get a hold of the fact that people are being kept dependent on them and the church, instead of growing and being free to spread their own spiritual wings. I have dreams that a house church revolution would start,” he laughs.
As I sit in the company of this rugged carpenter with his soul searching gaze, and his passion for people, I can understand why the contemporary North American church might not accept him, with his two earrings and his tattoo, and his different ideas about what a church should be, just as religious leaders long ago rejected another carpenter whose face didn’t fit, and whose radical teaching challenged everything they had believed for generations, and worked so hard to preserve.
“Whenever a church person looks at me, they don’t see the Reverend Tony Klasson,” he concludes…“they don’t see a pastor.”
I agree. They probably don’t. But if they look closely, they might just see a reflection of that other first century carpenter, whose message and ministry often challenged conventional thinking, and turned the traditional church of his time upside down. In which case, he’s in good company.
Copyright Anne Herridge 2009 |
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